The 9 Relationship Stages All Couples Go Through

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Relationships can be interesting to say the least.

Relationships come in stages that can be sometimes difficult to get through. The stages are like test to help figure out your compatibility with each other. One wrong move and everything can just fall apart leaving the relationship a casualty of war, but if you can make it through you are on your way to happy relationship.

Sometimes you can meet a couple that seem so perfect for each other. They do everything together, they’re always smiling, they finish each others sentences it seems like nothing can break them up… until they do.

Chances are they went wrong in one of the stages of the relationship.

Find out what relationship stage you are in below. Remember it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been in your relationship just know that your probably in one right now.

Stage #1 The infatuation stage. This is the first stage in every relationship. It almost always starts with an intense attraction and an uncontrollable urge to be with each other. Both of you may be intensely sexually attracted to each other, or both of you may just love the cuddles and each other’s company. In this stage, both of you overlook any flaws of each other and only focus on the good sides. 

Stage #2 The understanding stage. In this stage, both of you start getting to know each other better. You have long conversations with your partner that stretches late into the night, and everything about your partner interests and fascinates you. You talk about each other’s families, exes, likes and dislikes and other innocent secrets, and life seems so beautiful and romantic.

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Stage #3 The stage of disturbances. This stage usually forces its way into a happy romance after a few months of blissful courting. Do you remember the first fight or angry disagreement you and your partner had? For the first time ever in the relationship, both of you confront each other over a conflict, even though it’s sorted out quickly. 

Stage #4 The opinion maker. In this stage, both of you create opinions about each other. As the months pass by, both of you know what to expect from each other, and you make an assumption about your partner’s commitment towards the relationship.

When these opinions and expectations about your partner differ now and then in real life, it can either leave you ecstatic or depressed.

You don’t expect your man to buy you flowers, but he does. You feel ecstatic. At the same time, you expect him to pick you up from the airport on time. But he arrives an hour later because he forgot all about picking you up. It depresses you.

Stage #5 The moulding stage. You have your own expectations from an ideal partner. And in this stage, both of you try hard to mould each other to fit your own wants in a perfect partner. This stage is a lot about give and take, and both partners constantly try to subtly convince each other to change their behavior towards the relationship. This is a power struggle, and one that can end the relationship if both partners are domineering. 

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Stage #6 The happy stage. If the relationship survives past the moulding stage, both of you may have changed equally for each other and understood each other’s expectations. In this stage, the relationship cruises along perfectly and both of you may be blissfully happy with each other.

Almost always, this is the stage when both of you feel like a perfect match. You may even decide to get engaged or get married. This happy stage is also the stage of attachment when both of you truly feel connected to each other and love each other intensely. 

Stage #7 The stage of doubts. It’s been several years since both of you have been in a relationship with each other. And somewhere along the way, doubts start to creep in. The intensity of the doubts depend on how happy both of you are in the relationship.

You start to think of your past relationships, your exes, and other prospective partners. You tie your happiness in life with your relationship. If you’re unhappy, you blame it on the relationship.

In this stage, you start comparing your relationship with other couples and other relationships. Would your relationship survive this stage? It definitely could, as long as your relationship isn’t monotonous and repetitive. 

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Stage #8 The sexual exploration or bust stage. This is the stage when your sex life starts to play a pivotal role. Both your sex drives may change or one of you may get disinterested in sex.

In this stage, you either give up on passionate sex or constantly look for ways to make sex more exciting. If sexual interests start differing here, one of you may end up having an affair. But on the other hand, if you find creative ways to make sex more exciting, your relationship could get better and bring both of you a lot closer. 

Stage #9 The stage of complete trust. This is the happy stage when both of you love each other and trust each other completely. But at the same time, the unbreakable trust in each other could also turn into taking each other for granted.

In this stage, both of you know the direction of the relationship and both of you are completely happy with each other and find it easy to predict each other’s behavior and decisions. But with stability in love comes the urge to take each other for granted.

This should help out if you are experiencing any rough patches. Just because you have the trust doesn’t mean you shouldn’t continue to work on things. Love is tricky and if it’s not shown or the romance just isn’t their anymore you might find that someone else has rekindled the fire you once gave.

Just know that love is hard to get and even easier to lose if you both are not working at building together.

Source: LovePanky

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Awesome First Date Idea’s That Can Get a Second Date!

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Finding the perfect first date can be hard! You want to make a good impression and you want to make sure you are both having a great time as well!

You want to make sure your date is super comfortable and that the date is exciting as well as being romantic. This can be tough but not impossible! Choose a few things to do just in case things are going extremely well!

Always have something planed! If your date ask “what do you want to do” make sure you have an answer! That lets the other person know you thought about the date and care about that your date is having a good time. Plus who doesn’t want to wow their date the first night!

Here are a few great first date idea’s from LovePanky.com. Be sure to mix and match these idea in order to keep the date exciting memorable!

#1 Coffee. A coffee date is a comfort date at its best. It’s easy and can help your date judge you for who you are without being overpowered by the surrounding.

#2 Restaurant with a view. If you have a choice, pick a restaurant with a view, be it a garden, the horizon or the sea.

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#3 Amusement park. Pick a few crazy rides together, and before you know it, the chemistry would be sizzling with adrenalin.

#4 Park. Have a picnic at a park, especially if it’s a pleasant sunny day. There’s something about staring at nature’s beauty that makes us all feel wonderful inside.

#5 A live concert. If your date is into music or their favorite band is in town, don’t think twice. Your date will be grateful and love you for planning a surprise date to the concert.

#6 Zoo. Walking through a zoo can help both of you feel really comfortable with each other. It’s hard to hold your excitement back when you’re staring at wild animals indulging in wild antics.

#7 Boat ride. Pick what you intend to do, a romantic paddle boat or one with an oar, or a jet ski to make the date exciting.

#8 Bowling. Bowling can be a lot of fun, even though it sounds like a total cliché. A bit of rivalry on a romantic date always spices things up.

#9 Street fair or carnivals. An explosion of colors is a wonderful thing to experience, and it can’t get better than a street fair or a carnival. You can spend hours together, act silly and still have a perfect date.

#10 Karaoke. Do you think you’re the best bathroom singer, or are you trying to impress your date with your showmanship? Nothing beats a karaoke bar.
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#11 Watch a game. Does your date love a good game? Plan something together *only if you think your date’s favorite team is going to win!*

#12 Movie. Movie dates are perfect for cozying up and feeling the tingle of romantic excitement, especially when both of your elbows touch each other *accidentally, of course*.

#13 Arcade games. You may feel really awkward walking into a store full of kids. But it’ll only take a few games and a few minutes of awkwardness to bring out that inner child and have a wonderful date.

#14 A stand up show. Standup comedy is always funny, and a perfect date idea if you can couple it with dinner, either after the show or during the show.

#15 Wine tasting. Vineyards tours are very romantic and brewery tours are exciting and fun.

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#16 Ice skating. Ice skating or roller skating in a rink for an hour is a good way to spend an afternoon together before you head off to do something else. It’ll bring out your date’s inner child and it’ll be a laugh too.

Make sure your date has something to remember their night! Try and stay away from flowers and chocolate. If you go to the amusement park try to win your date something or if you go to a baseball game make sure they take home memorabilia like the team hat or t-shirt. The point is to make your date remember the awesome time you had together!

10 Quick Facts You Didn’t Know And Proably Should About Dating

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The most nerve-racking thing about dating is the first date. You never know if the person your with is truly into or not.

A few surveys about dating and statics are listed below. Some I bet you have done or experienced. I can personally say I have experienced them all at one point in my life.

Here are the 10 facts below:

71% of people surveyed at topdatingtips.com said they believe in love at first site.

Only 24% of people (also surveyed at topdatingtips.com) said that they trust someone they’re out on a first date with!
A survey of 38,912 singles conducted by It’s Just Lunch found that the chances of a second date happening when a guy hasn’t got in touch in the first 24 hours is as low as 1 in 8.

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“8 out of 10 women think that the first kiss will tell them everything they need to know about a relationship” – Hitch (okay, this one you may have heard before!)
43% of singles have Googled someone on the internet before a first date.
Had a first date set up by a friend? There is only a 17% chance of a second.

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“Men will decide within 15 minutes of a date whether a second date is on the cards. Women are a little more patient, often taking up to 1 hour to assess any potential chemistry.” – Matt Fuller
42% of people say that they’ve had a one night stand and regretted it the next day.
The number one conversation killer on a first date is past relationships (49%), with dieting or body image coming in at number two.

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“51% percent of single people surveyed said that flattery is the best way to attract someone. According to Are You Normal About Sex, Love, and Relationships? 25% also say to use touching as a way to flirt is very effective, and a surprising 23% say that the best way to let someone know you’re interested in them is the old schoolyard method of passing word through a friend.” – Will Irvin

Source: GetTheGuy

Dating or Hanging Out? 7 Things You Should Know About Dating

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It’s true most people are totally confused about whether or not they are on date or just hanging out.

It can tough to tell if your being slowly forced into the friend zone or not. Well there are certain actions you should look for that lets you know you doing a lot more than just hanging out with your super hot friend. There are certain things that you should look for in these situations.

In 2014 the State of Dating in America did a report that surveyed 2,647 18 and 59 took a 20-minute online survey about their dating habits, expectations and turnoffs.

Here are seven thing that we can take away from the survey:

1. Everyone is confused about what constitutes a date. Sixty-nine percent of singles reported that they were at least somewhat uncertain whether an outing with someone they were interested in was a date or not. Pro tip: If you’re going out with someone you met on a dating site, it’s a date. The rest of the time, make your intentions clear.

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2. The number one dating dealbreaker for both genders is poor hygiene.The top three dating dealbreakers for women surveyed were poor hygiene, unemployment, and a tie between excessive drinking habits and smoking. The top three dealbreakers for men were poor hygiene, smoking and being overweight. Unsurprisingly, no one wants their significant other to smell bad.

3. Don’t text someone to ask them out. Eighty-four percent of respondents would rather be invited on a date via phone call.

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4. The most attractive thing in the opposite sex is a sense of humor,according to 24 percent of respondents, shortly followed by physical appearance (21 percent) and confidence (16 percent).

5. Your pets really affect who you date. Both men and women reported being much less likely to date someone who owned a reptile or a rodent, and one-fifth of respondents would break up with someone their pet didn’t like. No word yet on how to tell if a reptile likes you.

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6. Most people want to get married between the ages of 26-30. Forty-nine percent of respondents considered this the ideal age. The next most popular age for getting married was 31-35, with 22 percent of the votes. According to the Pew Center, the average age of first marriage in the U.S. is 26.9 for women and 29.8 for men. Why not just get married when you’re ready for it, regardless of age — assuming you want to get married at all?

7. Most respondents would rather move in with someone sooner, rather than later. A full 69 percent of people surveyed thought the ideal time to shack up with a significant other was between less than six months and up to two years of dating. We advise caution — letting someone witness your shower-singing can’t be undone.

Source: Huffington Post